Dear Lucy,
I found out
that my girlfriend was cheating on me with my best friend. Obviously I need to
confront them about it, but how?
~Jake
from State Farm
Dear Jake from State Farm,
That’s a
tough situation to be in. Having your best friend and your girlfriend sneak
around behind your back can cause you to feel overwhelmed by their betrayal.
It’s normal to feel angry at them and like you aren’t good enough but you
cannot let your emotions dictate how you react to the situation. My advice is
that you be the bigger person and confront them both in a mature manner. I
don’t suggest talking to them together because that can cause problems. Talk to
them both individually and see what they have to say. Knowing when to walk away
from people who hurt you requires a great amount of strength. Walking away from
the situation with your head held high is dignity. If you make the decision to
forgive them you do not have to go back to the way things were, you just move
on with your life and eventually over time it will get easier and hurt less.
I
really hope things work out for you!
~Lucy
Dear Lucy,
I really
like this girl. Like a lot. We spend a lot of time together and talk all the
time. I can’t help but feel like I fall for her even more every time we’re
together. The only problem with feeling this way is that I can’t tell if she
likes me back. She knows I like her and she acts like the feelings are mutual
but she hasn’t said whether or not she likes me back. I can’t help but think I’m
stuck in the friend zone. What should I do?
~Forever
in the Friend zone
Dear Forever in the friend zone,
It sounds
to me that you’re in a tough situation. It sucks when you put all your time and
energy into someone and you don’t know if it’s going unnoticed or not. It
almost makes you feel like you’re being used as an ego boost or for attention.
You may even feel like you’re the only one who cares about your relationship.
If you all are as close as you say you are then I would definitely talk to this
girl about it. Just be straight up with her. If you already expressed your
feelings to her then the hard part it over. She’s obviously keeping you around
for a reason, I’d ask her if she has any intentions of being more than friends or
if she’s just abusing your feelings!
I
hope you get the truth!
~Lucy
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